Maintaining a relationship can be difficult when days are hectic and you feel lucky to even have had enough time to make it through the day! But if you use these 4 easy and quick tips, you will find that your significant other will feel loved and your romance will blossom back to when you began dating!
Think back to the days when you first met…. Recall how you felt about the man you fell in love with. Odds are, your memories will take you back to a time when you held your breath until you heard from him, received his telephone calls or a text message on your cell. Often, after a period of time, the excitement of the unknown washes away, this is not because your relationship is doomed or you have a better fit out there to find. This is a normal response that all relationships phase through and the difference between the ones who make it and the ones who do not, are the ones who put out the effort to show each other just how much they still mean to them.
1. Your listening skills: think back on the recent days that your husband or mate talked to you. Ask yourself if you really listened to what they were saying? We all know how it feels when you are talking to someone and the listener appears as if, every word they hear is going in one ear and right out the other side. When you really really listen, you show them that you care about what they are saying. Even if it is not as important to you, as it is to them, you need to show how much you care by showing interest in what they are telling you and what they experienced.
I remember in a past relationship, my boyfriend at the time, was telling me about an interaction he had experienced that day with his boss. At the time, as I was listening, I recalled thinking to myself, “Oh my gosh, are you kidding me? Your boss isn’t even half of what I have to put up at work on a daily basis!” I regret not showing more interest in that conversation and remember it up to this day. Even if I had the boss from hell, that did not reduce how he felt that day and his experiences with his boss at work.
2. You’re attracted to him: think back on the recent days and ask yourself how you showed your husband that you are attracted to him? If you cannot remember doing this, shame on you! Ladies, you must remember, men are always being confronted by women who think they are attractive! Do not make your husband feel he has to get that attention from somewhere else. If you like his smile, tell him. If you think he did really well on a project he finished at home, let him know.
A lot of women feel this is where their relationship is lacking from their husband. That he does not let her know how attracted he still is to her. This does not justify you behaving in the same way. This is an easy fix ladies, tell your husband that you want to hear that from him! Men are very simple creatures; they are not as complex as we are. A lot of the time, they simply do not think about this! Remind them that you need to hear this, tell them what you want and need. I promise you will be glad you did.
3. Be his girlfriend: I know I said it… but this is a hard proven fact. You do not want to be that wife husbands talk about at work. Where they dread coming home, look for reasons to work late into the night. This is a dead-end road for your relationship! You once were his girlfriend. He chose you out of all the women in the world to develop a serious relationship with and commit his life to. Don’t make him regret it and wish he was like Dave the single guy at work. Living his days by listening to Dave’s daily stories on living life as the single guy and how exciting it is to have a girlfriend versus a wife. Remind him of why he looked at you in the first place. If you’ve not been doing your hair and makeup like you used to, you need to start. Anyway, your life is not over just because you’re married or in a serious relationship. You still need to look good! Change whatever it is that is effecting your self-esteem and get back your old glow – I promise you, he will see it and he will let you know!
4. Always treat him with respect: this had to be added, I was going to stop at 3 and then added this as the fourth and final tip. I truly hope that no women are behaving in this manner or accepting this from their spouse. If so, stop it today or stop accepting that treatment today. Being in a long-term committed relationship never allows someone to verbally or mentally treat your significant other in a negative fashion. I can promise you, if he is accepting this type of behavior today, he will not stay in it for the long haul. If you have behaved in this manner before, make a promise to yourself and tell him that you promise you will never behave that way again and that you are sorry. We all need to behave as caring, compassionate individuals and this starts at home. Especially if you have children, you do not want them seeing this type of behaviors as a normal act. Make him glad that he fell in love with you, not regret it.
If you read this article and see yourself behaving in any of the ways noted above, there is still hope for you and your relationship! Dedicate yourself today and not only will your relationship prosper and blossom; you will feel better as a person! Remember, it takes 21 days to form a habit and it will take 21 days to stop any of these habits, if you do them. Get out your calendars today and mark an X on today’s date for day 1. You have only 20 days left to changing your relationship into a positive, romantic and hot one! Share this with your girlfriends and co-workers, we all deserve to have a hot and happy marriage.
