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Dating Advice you Need to Know Before you Start Dating

Do you want to start dating but you are uneasy about it or you want to get advice on dating before you do it? If so then you need to find some dating advice that will make things easier for you.

Here is some dating advice that you can use to help you stay safe on a date and to help you have a good time when you date. You always want to remember when you date that your safety needs to be your number one priority.

Dating advice you can use:

One: Always protect yourself in every way you can. Don’t be alone for the first date with someone that you don’t know very well. Go to a public place where you and your date can get to know each other better. If you are dating online never give out your personal information to anyone that can put you in danger.

Two: Always be yourself. Don’t try to act like someone you are not because you will eventually be found out. This is very important advice on dating because too many people try to get away with this and then can’t figure out why their date doesn’t want to go out with them anymore.

Three: Don’t lie about anything. If you feel like you have to lie about yourself or your life just to get someone to like you then you don’t want to date that person in the first place. If you are always honest then you won’t have a problem. However, people who lie are always caught at some point.

Four: Be a good talker so that your date doesn’t feel uncomfortable with silence. However, you also need to be a good listener. Everyone likes to talk about their lives and about themselves.

So if you remember that then you can talk about yours but also listen and learn something about your date. This is the best way for you two to get to know each other.

This dating advice will only get you so far. You can get all of the advice on dating that you want to but until you actually start dating, it won’t do you any good. Just remember that dating can be intimidating but it can also be a lot of fun.

If you are not ready you do not have to rush into dating. You also don’t have to date anyone that you don’t want to.

When you are ready to date you will know it. Then you just need to follow the advice that you learned so you can have the best first date ever. Dating only happens naturally when you are ready.

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Online Dating – My First Time

Okay. I’ll take a look, but I’m not saying that I’m going to participate in online dating just yet. I’ve heard the success stories and the horror stories about online dating, but I do not have any first hand experience to share with you on the topic.

What I plan to do in this article is take you with me while I explore the different online dating services available on the web. Brace yourself and buckle your seatbelt, I’m going to try something I saw in a cartoon.

Just kidding. That’s something I like to say to the passengers in my car just before I start to drive. Maybe that’s part of the reason I’m having dating problems in the first place.

Okay, the first website I discovered says it’s a “free” online dating service. Online, red flags always go up for me when someone says that magic word, “free”. But, let’s take a closer look.

Well, it sounds good. It says it is, “an internet dating service that provides a comfortable and intimate environment where you can safely and conveniently search and find your perfect soul mate, while having lots of fun. Thousands of dating ads of singles that are looking for dating romance, intimacy and friendship is available for you to browse through. Your ideal companion might be among them. (site name deleted) brings dating to new frontiers, making impossible, possible!”

I’m having a little trouble with the comfortable and intimate environment thing. They haven’t seen the room my computer sits in. Safe and convenient sounds nice though. But if the website is just a lot of personal ads, can’t I just get something like that at my local news stand or in my local newspaper?

I think I’ll move on and take a look to see if there are online dating services that provide more than dating advice and personal ads.

Hmm, now I find myself on an online dating website that claims to be the biggest online dating service on the web. It has a big picture of Dr. Phil on the front. Almost scared me away, but I’ll tough it out and stay to see what they offer.

Here is what they say, “Looking for more in a relationship and a dating site? With over 10 years of experience in online dating and relationships, (site name deleted) is the worldwide leader in online dating and relationships. Where else can you find millions of singles looking for love, just like you? We don’t offer just online personals, we are personal in our offerings – to help you find a date, a relationship, a marriage.

Whoa! Marriage? I said I might try online dating. I never said anything about marriage! And now I have the mental image of “millions of singles looking for love”. Wow! Millions. Okay, so they sound big, but what do they actually offer?

Well, first off, they don’t really tell you much about the services they provide. Just a lot of information about the millions who have gotten married through their online dating service. So I bit the bullet and went to the sign up form to learn more.

Now comes the money question. $29.95 for a month or I can get discounts for longer memberships. Then there is the Dr. Phil MindFindBind program that costs more. Now I’m laughing because since I am checking the online dating service out while typing this article, I evidently have waited too long to make my decision because a popup just came up to offer me assistance with making up my mind.

They do have some free services, but those are basically, create a profile, look at profiles, etc. That’s just like the free services on the first online dating website. You have to pay for the ability to actually respond to any emails sent to you by other members or block members or to see which members have taken a peek at your profile. That all sounds okay, but if you go for the whole Dr. Phil package you get an online dating tutorial, a video about online dating, online dating workshops, and online dating advice. Wow!

Well, as I said, I haven’t decided just yet, so we are going to check out one more online dating website together. Okay, this one is free. They have a patent pending on their matchmaking idea. They calculate your matchability in percentages.

The online dating method they use goes like this, “When you answer a question in our improve matches area we learn: (1) your answer, (2) how you’d like someone else to answer, and (3) how important the question is to you. We collect these three values for all users.

Your match percentage with a given person on (site name deleted), let’s call him b, is based on the values of (1), (2),and (3) for questions you’ve both answered. We’ll call that set S later in this explanation:” Wow! I thought that just regular dating was complicated.

I think I’m going to keep checking out more online dating websites until I find the one that is right for me. So far, the ones we just toured have been too much like personal ads, too expensive, too Dr. Phillish for my tastes, or too complicated. I’m sure though, just like finding the right date, there is an online dating website out there for me and one for you too!

I encourage you to at least try online dating. But don’t stop at the first online dating service you find, just like hopefully you wouldn’t stop at the first singles bar you saw. Check out as many as you need to in order to find the online dating service that is right for you.

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A Question Of Pride In Dating

For most men the secret towards success in the successful procurement of a girl lies heavily on the undertakings that they resort to. Now this may be varied in nature but the thing is, they can also learn from such practices by noting what things may not necessarily go well and what might not in their pursuit of women. There are plenty of alternative course of action a man can think of, but unless he is able to deliver and test each one of these strategies, he will never find the true and right approach when he is after romance or seduction in women.

It is apparent that women are not easy pickings. Women have come of age in recent years and this can be attributed to the vast array of stories and shared experiences that they have gathered from friends and past love interests. With that said, men cannot afford to dilly dally around with women. If they think they can play around with women then perhaps it is the other way around where they are the ones being used and they do not even have an idea of what is really going on in the process.

The truth of the matter is, men have their work cut out for them. They may take a woman for granted or seriously, depending on what they are really after. Gifts and treats may be flattering but women know better than to fall for the old style of biting the apple. There will always be something wanted in return and this is something that will ultimately be playing in the minds of women.

It is indeed unfair to judge every man in general. But considering that women have the upper hand in the initial stages of acquaintances, man really has little options to choose from. Hence, here alone, he is left with an ultimatum to decide, pursue and cheat or pursue and take it seriously. Normally, the man who would spend time towards winning a woman’s affection would take it seriously and to the next level to which normal following reactions such as constant dating, romance and even seduction practices will fall in automatically.

For men who have pride in what they do, they would usually stand by where they can prove their manhood. In relationships, both men and women should know that pride is something they have to set aside. Choosing not to abide by it may lead towards never experiencing what true compatibility is really all about.

A person can never find out for himself the true chances he would have if he lacks the courage to walk up to a girl. Some people may have apprehensions since they would feel that they lack the looks and the joy to give towards women who look for something particular in men. While it is only natural for men to try and impress women, they should also look at the outlook and future they would have. Weighing them out and trying to determine if everything is worth the effort and patience is something that will surely be a dilemma that men should take into consideration above anything else.

While some men do not want to gamble on chances, it is indeed hard to take them into consideration. Men will always encounter times where they would have to make choices and regardless if they are indeed good or bad is something that should be readily accepted. The important thing is that the effort and the sincerest of all intents was made and if that is not enough for any woman, then a guy has to move on instead of sulking down with depression.

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